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What to do with regrets

 

Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda….
 
We've all heard the phrase, and likely all have said it at some point.

Basically, these are your regrets in life, the things you wish you had done and If only____fill in the blank___I would have….or could have…even Should have done it.
 
It's understandable though. The reason we have regrets is that we don't live in a perfect world.

At the very least, our Woulds, Coulds and Shoulds is a list of missed opportunities and not necessarily a mistake (unless you count not doing them as a mistake but whatever.
 
There are so many opportunities that I have missed out on because of my own fear, insecurity, stubbornness. Ha! My stubbornness for sure has cost me. Don't ask my parents about that.
 
There are two things we can do to work through these regrets and prevent more in the future.
1) Leave the past in the past. Dragging your past to the present day only kills your effectiveness because it keeps you focused on past mistakes.

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How to fit your goals on a t-shirt

goals growth May 22, 2020
 

Hey everyone, you probably have a ton of things on your plate right now.

But I want to talk for a second about the big things on your list .

Big things are more complex, take more time or are more important than the other things on the list.


Big things are also those actions that will bring the most return on investment of your time and attention.

Because in life, your time and attention are finite not infinite they can either be spent on what's known as
1) the critical few or
the 2) trivial many.

In other words, there are typically only a very few things that are TRULY the most important things in your life. Think of this like the classic "God, family, country."


Then there are the trivial many. These are like the steady drip (or flood) of continuous activities in your day.

These are not unimportant but they can be overwhelming if not kept in check of whatever is TRULY most important.

So, here's a question worth answering…"How can I get the biggest return on my time and...

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The two faces of the question "What if?"

 

Hey everyone, I've got this question on my mind this week "What if?"
 
It's a simple question right? "What if?"
But it’s not as simple as you think at first. Here’s why…
 
What's interesting about it is that it has two faces to it…one's ugly and the other is exhilarating
 
Too often I am asking the question from a starting point of fear and it sounds something like this…
· What if I say what I REALLY want to, what will people think?
· What if I start that business and it doesn't work out?
· What if I DON'T do that, what will happen?
· What if my kids don’t turn out like I hope?
 
Does this sound familiar? It does to me!
In fact, too often, I find myself asking the question "What if" -- out of fear.
And a lot of it is subconscious and by that I mean I don't even realize I'm doing it. I shut down my own dreams, I kill my best ideas. I am often my worst enemy for it.
 
But the question "What If?" has another...

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Shhh....I'm listening to wisdom!

endurance growth wisdom Apr 30, 2020
 
Hey everyone, we're being hit with so much negative these days and I wanted to send a short message of encouragement to you.
 
As a child of the 80's I watch the movie "Pee Wee's Big Adventure".
It's a totally goofy movie.
But one of the funniest lines that I remember to this day is when his friend urges Pee Wee to listen to reason. Then when his friend tries to talk, Pee Wee says "Shhhhhh….I'm listening to reason!"
 
This came to mind again at a recent visit to my parents front yard.
We were keeping our social distance from them and had our two teenage kids with us at the time.
 
Before we left, my Dad walked closer to my kids and said,
"Hey, just remember this about all this Coronavirus stuff and quarantine…this is NOT the Worst thing that will happen to you in your lifetime"
 
So my kids didn't mistake the comment as a downer, I added the phrase "This too shall pass".
 
The more I thought about it, the more I appreciated...
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